Pain and Peace will always co-exist in our lifetime, but when the pain seems too overwhelming, how do we balance it all, without losing ourselves and our purpose, along the way? After many cumulative losses in my lifetime, including the death of my brother, the loss of both parents a year apart, moving 10 times, and the loss of a 30 year marriage, my head kept telling me to be strong, but my heart was tired, tired of "trying to be strong" and stuffing down the pain. My faith will always be the greatest gift I've ever known, my children the greatest gift I was ever given. When it comes to The Grief Recovery Method, it is the greatest gift I've ever given to myself, and a gift that I am now privileged to give to many others.
GRM is an action-based, evidence-based, educational program for dealing with grief and loss. It can be applied to any loss, past or present, and offers a comprehensive set of tools that enables people to untangle their grief, piece by piece. GRM changed my perspective 360 degrees in knowing that not only can you survive grief, but you can grow exponentially from it, if you are committed to doing the work.
As a former teacher, I loved working with children and getting to know their whole person, beyond just their performance in the classroom. I worked mostly with students who were performing "below grade level". I used to cringe at the number of "labels" that were put upon these children at early ages. Children put so much pressure on themselves, and often parents put pressure on them as well. I worked alongside students coming from broken homes, exhausted at school, eating candy for breakfast, many dealing with emotional issues, and an alarming rate of behavioral issues. Challenging situations of grief and loss as young as 5 and 6 years old. I realized early in my teaching career that emotional health is too often overlooked and forgotten when trying to achieve standards.
The first 12 years of my professional career, I worked for two large corporations, traveling, moving 10 times between both spouses’ careers. After the loss of my 30 year-old brother, corporate policy allowed 3 days off when then loss was due to the death of an “immediate family member". Unfortunately, the reality of what society expects is often the opposite of what we "need" in dealing with loss. We are expected to keep a stiff upper lip, don't let them see you sweat, time will heal, even though your heart has just been broken into a million pieces.
Most people try to deal with grief and loss by intellectualizing it. Or we find someone to confide in, who is a good listener and may lift us up temporarily, but that is about as far as they can take us. The GRM program is a structured process. Clients grow from it and enjoy it because it's tangible, they learn the action steps in the process, and obtain lifetime tools that they can apply to all relationships, past, present, and future.
Whether you prefer receiving support 1:1 or in a group setting (workshop), you will benefit from the GRM program. It is my sincerest hope that in this life, you find peace, and that in case no one has ever told you this before, You ARE Enough, and You ARE Fully Known, always have been, always will be.